Hoobastank - The Reason (Lyrics)
One of my friends sent me this song. When I met him, he had a problem with depression. I didn't know it, though I could feel it. Through that time he hurt me a lot and it took a while for me to forgive him. I saved him from committing suicide even though I didn't know it. We were just friends. "Everyday," he said, "you gave me a reason to live and a reason to change." That is my interpretation.
Hoobastank - The Reason (Lyrics)
This song is a melancholy mix of regret and rebirth. The lyrics demonstrate how people are often selfish during the course of a relationship only to have the relationship end as a result of their behavior. The lyrics stop short of revealing the extent of the hurtful behavior, but hint that the behavior merited an end of the relationship. The good that can come from the dissolution of a relationship have been the fodder of many artistic works. A painful ending of a cherished relationship (albeit cherished in retrospect) can often become the catalyst of change for a person. We see that our selfish behavior has driven one we love away, thus we are motivated to change. The question is whether or not we change for change sake, i.e., to do the right thing for ourselves; in other words to become better people because it serves a high order spiritual end. Or, do we change to gain the favor of the ones we have lost. In either case are we not still the selfish children we seeks to change? Sometimes people leave us. Sometimes they leave us for reasons that can be traced to our behavior. Sometimes they leave for their own selfish reasons. But for whatever reason, it is their choice to stay or go. If we are truly loving and unselfish, we can let them go with a loving heart and open arms.
It could be a father singing to his daughter about he hurt her not physical but maybe not be there when she needed him. For running away without telling her and so on. But because if her he's changed himself to be a much better man, father and over all person. For his daughter help him with his addiction his loss if family and we'll everything she's the reason he still lives.
To me the song takes on a completely different meaning. My sister was struck by a vehicle in 2018 before she could even turn 18. Our entire family was struggling and our dad and stepmom were divorcing. I was depressed at the time and I think she knew that. To me, it's like I'm telling her that I found a reason for me to be someone different that what she knew. The due to her reason of death, the music video for this hit deep.
Everyone interprets each song differently but the songwriter had a very specific reason for writing this song and it has nothing to do with a relationship. It is about drunk driving and accidentally killing a person. I believe this actually happened to the lead singer (he accidentally killed a person in a drunk driving crash), if I'm not mistaken. The song is about changing himself to be a better person so that person's death was not in vain. The song intentionally makes you think he's talking about a relationship but he's actually not. If you look up lists of 'Songs You Didn't Know Had a Dark Meaning' this song is usually on there. It's also on just about every list of 'Songs About Car Wrecks'. P
When this song came out my daughter & I were in a much much better place relationship wise, but the vert first time i heard it in the car while I was driving. By the time it was over I had pulled to the right shoulder of the hwy because I was crying so mournfully because every line in this song was exactly how i felt more often than not at some point during most days. Not the kind of sadness attributed to depression that just won't go away. The kind of feeling that overwhelming guilt brings when you can't forgive yourself even if the other person has. My daughter, from the ages 9-17,watched my deterioration from being a momma to being someone she couldn't count on, couldn't be sure i'd be home or awake, couldn't be sure if there'd be a home. All due my decent in the world of crack at age 30. She has always been so very special & amazing to me. God gave me the most well behaved, happy, smart, easy going child there has ever been. I promise. Because I did not want children. I never babysat when I was young. Ask my doctor when I was 17 to fix me so no babies. Didnt care for anyones child really. But along she came & was the best thing I ever did to this day. I was a single mom by the time she was 6 months old & I loved it. Other than when I was working we did & went everywhere together. I actually like my child. Always have. Enjoy her company. Now she's not crazy about it anymore now that she's 36. But I've never felt any worse than when I think back to those years & all the hell I put her through. And she still loves me!!! When i quit crying that day on the side of the hwy I called her & told her about the song & said she was my reason. Funny thing is from the time she got here until ? I had always told her she was the reason I was born...just to give birth to her. She was the reason I was. Needless to say the song is very special to us both & I still cry when I hear it. But it definitely helped me, unknowingly, forgive myself somewhat. Thank you Hoobastank!!!!
I first heard this song whrn I found out i was pregnant with my oldest daughter. Im not a perfect person there's many things I wish I didn't do.. Im a recovering addict ... I fiundbavreason for me to change who i used to be a reason to start over new and the reason is you my daughter
I have heard this song many times, but today I listened to it,with my eyes closed, so as to not be distracted by the lame visual plot of the video, and my heart open to try and see if it really described my situation. Does it ever!Last week my wife learned something very hurtful about my behavior related to sexual addiction. It was something that truly shook her and very nearly ended any and all hope for a future for us right then and there. While there are no guarantees, I do feel there is hope for us. The song captures all my feelings....for the line about "before I go..." describes the moment last week that I kissed my wife goodbye and went to my dad's home three hours away, to give her some space. The "reason for me to start over new" and change is her, but it's also for me. I can't be the best husband for her if I can't be the best person I can be for me. The hurt I have caused, not just to her, but to me and others overt the years from this addiction is "something I must live with every day", but through the help of Sex Addicts Anonymous, and hopefully my wife, I will "continue learning" about my addiction and the ways I can recover from it and "change who I used to be. A reason to start over new, and the reason is (me and) you! I love you! 041b061a72